@Dingo_Kidneys@lemmy.today
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- on Queer discourse rule in c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4d ago
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on Queer discourse rule in c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 Sep 2026
You wrote off demi too fast. When you say you find people passing with a good vibe hot, are we saying aroused, or are we saying “Ah, yes, quite the fuckable one, that”. Because there’s a third option and bi or pan only cover one while demi covers two.
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on Teen Boys Are Using Meta Glasses to Terrorize Girls at High Schools and Middle Schools in c/technology@lemmy.world · 23 Aug 2026
Crime usually comes before punishment. Right now the system is working it’s way into figuring out how to deal with this new social dynamic. Like you, I think it’s pretty straightforward. We won’t solve the core reason for the bullying dynamics though. I think humans that adhere to gendered thinking will be behind on that for a good long while yet.
Ah gotcha. I cant relate to the feeling but I can conceptualize it I think. I fall under demisexual so while I’m highly sexually charged, arousal by a random person takes a lot of work to get to. To clarify further, I’m male, but I have so many turn-offs that people are essentially classified as unsexy by default until I’ve done heavy vetting (social and psychological conversational prodding to determine a person’s place in the metacontextual zeitgeist). Then on top of that I have physical and presentational preferences so finding partners is practically impossible. I got lucky that a Tinder date turned into the best LTR of my life, and a person I couldnt imagine being without now.
This said, I’m very familiar with attraction after vetting, but social signifiers have rarely in my experience told me who a person was. Perhaps I’m more distrustful than you, but I can’t imagine getting past my sensors with only a glance. I’ve learned too many times that people are seldom what you think they are at first glance.
To this extent, are you saying that a bi/pansexual has more physically charged sensors for attraction, and so that conversation is not necessary? To that end, is additional conversation LESS attractive? I ask because I’ve run into this feature with cis straight women, where my yapping turns them completely off, even if my body was green for them. Not through offence mind you, I notice they just get bored or overwhelmed with the conversation and wanted a spicier encounter.