I think it comes from a fear of judgement and also not knowing where to look and even when you do a lot of nerds specifically online get a lot of bad social habits engrained.
At the same time you have to start somewhere to get better at something.
I think you’re right. All the above. It will be jarring to leave a familiar social medium and there will be friction. Worth it though I think.
Online social media (including this one) are like processed snacks in many ways. They replicate and augment elements of social experience the way processed food imitates real food. They offer push-button control, promising to vend whatever social experience you wish.
Suddenly switching from a diet of only processed snacks to 100% real food can cause a great deal of discomfort, enough that a person might just give up and go back to the snacks.
TLDR For the exclusively online socialites, it might be more manageable to plan in a reasonable online-to-IRL adjustment phase rather than just unplugging yourself from the matrix and charging out like a champ
Yeah and I wish more of the shut-in nerds would come out to play with us
Text < Phone < Video < … < In-Person
Especially when it comes to interpersonal connection and chemistry
I think it comes from a fear of judgement and also not knowing where to look and even when you do a lot of nerds specifically online get a lot of bad social habits engrained.
At the same time you have to start somewhere to get better at something.
I think you’re right. All the above. It will be jarring to leave a familiar social medium and there will be friction. Worth it though I think.
Online social media (including this one) are like processed snacks in many ways. They replicate and augment elements of social experience the way processed food imitates real food. They offer push-button control, promising to vend whatever social experience you wish.
Suddenly switching from a diet of only processed snacks to 100% real food can cause a great deal of discomfort, enough that a person might just give up and go back to the snacks.
TLDR For the exclusively online socialites, it might be more manageable to plan in a reasonable online-to-IRL adjustment phase rather than just unplugging yourself from the matrix and charging out like a champ