Ren faires, local volunteer theaters, trivia nights, local crafts fair.
Don’t go there to pick people up, go there to engage and have fun. Being interested and having fun is far more attractive than trying to pick someone up.
If all else fails, host a queer friendly D&D group.
That’s where I’ve met every polyamorous, cool nerd person I know. Most mature, interesting and down to earth people you’ll know. I know one polycule that consists of a programmer, a plumber and a chef, they take kickboxing together and have a sweet garden. I swear they’re prepping for the apocalypse together.
I think it comes from a fear of judgement and also not knowing where to look and even when you do a lot of nerds specifically online get a lot of bad social habits engrained.
At the same time you have to start somewhere to get better at something.
I think you’re right. All the above. It will be jarring to leave a familiar social medium and there will be friction. Worth it though I think.
Online social media (including this one) are like processed snacks in many ways. They replicate and augment elements of social experience the way processed food imitates real food. They offer push-button control, promising to vend whatever social experience you wish.
Suddenly switching from a diet of only processed snacks to 100% real food can cause a great deal of discomfort, enough that a person might just give up and go back to the snacks.
TLDR For the exclusively online socialites, it might be more manageable to plan in a reasonable online-to-IRL adjustment phase rather than just unplugging yourself from the matrix and charging out like a champ
No idea I just know of the one near myself and others speak of them so they must exist. I would honestly just ask around at nerd locations, Google, some areas have like a parks&rec kinda place you can call they might know.
Also if you do call, ask if they offer anything. My local parks shit will literally give out free tickets to theme parks and shit if you call and ask.
I miss 2010-2012 memes. It’s been nothing but downhill since.
This you?
By this logic I am not a nerd
Sad
You would be a REAL nerd if you were Buttnutter instead of NutButter
maybe not yet :3
Same. I need to reconsider my nerdyness.
That is a comforting lie.
I wish
There are genuinely two most prevalent groups of hackers in my hackerspace:
We never had any sexual activity on this couch!™®
Nerds when they finally meet up
there could be SO many more polycules in the world if there were gyms specifically for nerds
I’m gonna help y’all out.
Ren faires, local volunteer theaters, trivia nights, local crafts fair.
Don’t go there to pick people up, go there to engage and have fun. Being interested and having fun is far more attractive than trying to pick someone up.
If all else fails, host a queer friendly D&D group.
That’s where I’ve met every polyamorous, cool nerd person I know. Most mature, interesting and down to earth people you’ll know. I know one polycule that consists of a programmer, a plumber and a chef, they take kickboxing together and have a sweet garden. I swear they’re prepping for the apocalypse together.
So basically reclusive nerds vs IRL community oriented nerds.
Yeah and I wish more of the shut-in nerds would come out to play with us
Text < Phone < Video < … < In-Person
Especially when it comes to interpersonal connection and chemistry
I think it comes from a fear of judgement and also not knowing where to look and even when you do a lot of nerds specifically online get a lot of bad social habits engrained.
At the same time you have to start somewhere to get better at something.
I think you’re right. All the above. It will be jarring to leave a familiar social medium and there will be friction. Worth it though I think.
Online social media (including this one) are like processed snacks in many ways. They replicate and augment elements of social experience the way processed food imitates real food. They offer push-button control, promising to vend whatever social experience you wish.
Suddenly switching from a diet of only processed snacks to 100% real food can cause a great deal of discomfort, enough that a person might just give up and go back to the snacks.
TLDR For the exclusively online socialites, it might be more manageable to plan in a reasonable online-to-IRL adjustment phase rather than just unplugging yourself from the matrix and charging out like a champ
See I keep hearing about ren faires online but never heard of one irl. How do I even find one?
Like there’s the Medieval Days in Tallinn but that sounds super official, the performers are in character and everyone else is mostly a spectator
Are regular renaissance fairs where people get in character just an American thing?
Honestly I don’t even like the idea of a ren fair because that age from memory would kill people like me.
That’s just my opinion as someone who hasn’t gone but it really does strike me in a similar way to civil war re-enactments.
No idea I just know of the one near myself and others speak of them so they must exist. I would honestly just ask around at nerd locations, Google, some areas have like a parks&rec kinda place you can call they might know.
Also if you do call, ask if they offer anything. My local parks shit will literally give out free tickets to theme parks and shit if you call and ask.
You fucking wish 😂😂😂😂😂😂
The one on the right looks familiar. Is she canonically named Khaleesi? From that meme about millennials naming their children
Edit:
Wouldn’t know, but it’s three Wojaks: Doomer girl, Tradwife and E-thot, left to right
Dang. I really hoped she had become canonically known as khaleesi
That was true for band nerds too. The only period in my life where I had any game was when I attended band camp. And they sought me out.
Can confirm, this is me and my polycule.
Proof?
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You’re just angry they get laid and you don’t.
i’ll have you know i wash my hair twice a week!