I just need my wife and family to stop being transphobic, that would end my problem right now and I would come out and transition. I’ve got everything else.
How worthwhile is it to cling to their approval when it directly interferes with your happiness? I dunno, I won’t say what’s the right or wrong move, but it’s always sad to hear about the people who don’t feel like they’re allowed to be themselves because of others. You’re 1,000% allowed to embrace it, but only you can really decide if it’s worth the costs.
It is, I have a young child who would be in the middle of any fighting, and whom I would potentially lose access to. I could peacefully come out and split custody if this wasn’t a problem.
Who are the “and family”? The wife is clearly already mentally considering herself your ex-wife, so that is less relevant. But are the other transphobes around you your children or siblings or what?
I just need my wife and family to stop being transphobic, that would end my problem right now and I would come out and transition. I’ve got everything else.
How worthwhile is it to cling to their approval when it directly interferes with your happiness? I dunno, I won’t say what’s the right or wrong move, but it’s always sad to hear about the people who don’t feel like they’re allowed to be themselves because of others. You’re 1,000% allowed to embrace it, but only you can really decide if it’s worth the costs.
It is, I have a young child who would be in the middle of any fighting, and whom I would potentially lose access to. I could peacefully come out and split custody if this wasn’t a problem.
That’s brutal, I’m sorry you’re there. I will say that I’ve never met someone who regretted divorcing to transition
Who are the “and family”? The wife is clearly already mentally considering herself your ex-wife, so that is less relevant. But are the other transphobes around you your children or siblings or what?
Whole family, both of our sides, excluding my child who hasn’t formed an opinion on it yet